The process is simple: each week, each man makes a commitment of something he will work on until the next meeting. His commitment may be something spiritual (like daily prayer, Scriptural or spiritual reading, or another spiritual discipline), something physical (eating healthy, working out or something similar), something related to everyday life or relationships and so on. Each man uses his own discretion as to what he chooses to commit to each week. No one can tell him what to/what not to commit to, it is a personal decision. As the week goes by, each man works to successfully complete or perform his commitment. He then comes back to the group and during The Four C’s portion of the meeting, he confesses how he has done with his commitment. If he has failed, he says so. If he has completed or performed his commitment, he says so. If he has partially fulfilled his commitment, he says so. Ultimately, the purpose is for a man to work on something throughout the week that will help him grow in holiness and virtue. A physical commitment can be related to discipline, which translates very well into the spiritual life, and thus, can be a method of growing in holiness.

1. Confess
Criteria:
1. Should be an honest account to the degree of which you kept your commitment for the week.
2. Optional general account of your overall spiritual and masculine growth and/or areas that need work.

2. Commit
Considerations:
1. What are you working on spiritually and/or on a natural masculine level?
2. What is keeping you from being a better Christian man?
3. Is there a particular vice/sin that needs to be addressed in your life?
4. Is there a specific virtue that you are trying to obtain in your life?
5. How will this commitment conform to addressing your root sin/vice; enable you to build a specific virtue; and help you to become a better Christian?
 Criteria:
1. Should be positive
2. Should directly relate to what you are working on spiritually
3. Should be realistic/obtainable/achievable
4. Should be concrete/measurable (how, when, where, who)

3. Challenge  (Optional)
Considerations:
1. Does the man’s commitment need more clarification?
2. Does the commitment fail to meet any one of the four criteria?
3. Am I challenging this man in order to help him?
4. Is my challenge going to build the man up or tear him down?
5. Is this commitment(s) bearing fruit in the man’s life?
Criteria:
1. Should always be done in a spirit of charity
2. Should be done in a simple, time sensitive manner
3. Should be done with the assumption the man intends to fulfill his initial commitment
4. Should be done at the discretion of each man

4. Confirm (Optional)
Considerations:
1. Does my “confirmation” confirm the man for good work?
2. Do I choose to confirm only for complete successes?
3. Do I choose to confirm for partial successes too?
4. Will this man feel good about my confirmation?
5. Will this confirmation serve to spur him on to future successes?
Criteria:
1. Should be genuine
2. Should be a source of encouragement
3. Should be done as often as merited
4. Should be done at the discretion of each man