“Daddy, why aren’t more people talking about this?”

It was a simple enough question that any reasonable person might ask, let alone my 10 year old son.  It was June 6th, the 75th anniversary of the D-Day invasion and my son was curious why many in my local area or even family are not talking about the courage and bravery of the many who gave their lives for the noble cause of freedom in Normandy, France not so long ago.  My answer was simply, “Well Mark, many from our generation have lost touch with this legacy and many of these heroes are not around to share their stories anymore.”  “Yeah, but dad, these are the greatest generation of Americans,” he said in reply. “I know Mark. It’s sad that there are so few who see what you see and believe what you believe.”

                Meanwhile, in Normandy, France, there was a commemorative event taking place, which brought many of the surviving D-Day veterans from Canada, Britain, France and the United States, including President Donald Trump and the First Lady.  Yes, internationally there was a great gathering and commemoration of the men who sacrificed so much.  I saw 1-2 great articles posted about D-Day and the faith of General Dwight Eisenhower.  Our nation did pay tribute, but the spirit of my son’s question, was not that the world didn’t recognize these pivotal events which took place three quarters of a century ago, but that every day people did not seem aware of these important events. 

                My son, like many boys, is enamored by the stories of our American History, especially battles that took place which helped to secure the freedoms we enjoy as a nation.  My son, although plays and has much interest in sports, is more interested in learning about our nation’s history and people like George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Ulysses S. Grant, Robert E. Lee, Davy Crockett, Jim Bowie and the Battle of the Alamo.  He has a thirst for knowledge of the heroic.  We just reviewed, with the help of Wikipedia, the data from the largest naval defeat in the history of the world, the Battle of LePanto.  He wants to know about these real stories and the real men who fought courageously and bravely for something greater than themselves and he wonders simply enough why others don’t find this as important as he does.

                I guess our lives as adults just doesn’t have the wonder of a boy discovering a whole other reality to the life which he is exploring as he evolves into a young man.  Perhaps many of us adults have researched all we care to know about these histories, or for many, really have found no interest in learning anything about them.  Many adults would rather study and review the current standings in the Major Leagues than learn about the Battle of Anzio.  Or some men would just prefer to prep themselves for their upcoming drafts so as to check out from their families and live in their own 6 month fantasy world of football.  Ouch, I hope that wasn’t too harsh!

Perhaps, this generation’s only link to the past was a grandfather or great grandfather whom they either took no time to know or ask about the significant role they played in our history.  It is also possible that Tom Brokaw’s referred “Greatest Generation of Americans” really didn’t want to talk about their experiences from WWII because it was either too painful or they were just too humble.  Of the articles I am reading about the War and the men who served, there was a great degree of humility shrouding this group of Americans.  If but for this reason alone, this group should be remembered. 

I learned recently that the story of George Washington has been largely ignored in school systems across the country.  His portrait has disappeared from classroom walls, and history books now have as little as 10 percent of the coverage of Washington that they possessed just 40 years ago.  How sad!  Our nation was formed on the character of one man and our kids today know little to nothing about him.  I gather in 100 years, the youth of America will know little to nothing about the D-Day invasion.  My son, in his own youthful wisdom, knows the importance of these events and will do his best to preserve the legacy when he builds his Lego forts, educates his peers and passes this knowledge onto his own children one day. My job as his father is to encourage him to do so, keep inspiring him to learn more about his country’s history and to keep on reflecting and pondering the heroic.  One day, I pray my son’s life will also be a reflection of all he perceives as worthy to be remembered and emulated.

The Catholic Man Needs to “Do” More

That’s right!  If you are a Catholic man and you are reading this, you need do more as a Catholic to usher in the Kingdom of God plain and simple.  Okay, now that I lost half of my audience, let us continue.

Jesus said, “Much will be required of the person entrusted with much, and still more will be demanded of the person entrusted with more” (Luke 12:48).

During this time of Lent, we do more than we usually do when it comes to prayer, fasting and almsgiving as prescribed by the Church.  I submit that we as Catholic men need to do more praying, fasting, almsgiving, ministering, witnessing, healing, reading Sacred Scripture, attending Holy Mass, going to confession and performing corporal and spiritual works of mercy than any other Christian.  Why? 

We as Catholic Christian men have more daily access to God’s grace than any other non-Catholic Christian on earth.  We do because we have the 7 sacraments of the Church.  As the old Baltimore Catechism would say, “a sacrament is an outward sign instituted by Christ to transmit grace.”   The sacramental life of the Church offers us almost unlimited access to God’s daily grace. 

And arguably the greatest reason we have more access than any other Christian is because of our Blessed Mother, “Our tainted nature’s solitary boast” (as cited from William Wordsworth’s poem “The Virgin”).   Mary is indeed the “spring through which all graces flow” as we sing in the old hymn.  St. Maximilian Kolbe and St. Louis de Montfort assure us that Mary is a sure and perfect guide to holiness.  Mary’s sole mission is to lead us to her Son.  

We have no excuses but to be better men, husbands, fathers, and better witnesses to Christ in the world.  This should not be the case just during our Lenten journey, but every day and always. 

As Lent is coming to an end and we prepare to disengage from of our daily devotions which we committed to for 40 days or the sacrifices that we offered and successfully fulfilled, I propose that we continue in these practices.  We continue to bear witness to Christ in season and out. 

Now, I know you are saying that is a pious sentiment Mark and I really like your proposed zeal here, but the liturgical calendar is set up the way it is for a reason so thanks, but no thanks.  To you my brother I say, when is there ever a time to give up extra prayers and sacrifice for love of God and neighbor?  Christ would say these are the greatest of His commandments and the whole Christian life can be summed up in living out such.  So if prayer, fasting and almsgiving help you to do fulfill God’s greatest commandments then why would you want to give them up?  Or why would you want to limit this to just 40 days a year? 

As a Catholic Christian man, we will be held to a higher standard than your average Evangelical Christian. 
Again, to whom much is given, much will be expected.  We have been given so much as Catholic men; let us strive to live out our Catholic faith using all the tools and graces available to us.  Especially, let us avail ourselves to more daily grace and ask for Mary’s intercession as often as possible.  Apart from God and His grace, we can do nothing good on our own.  Giving up sweets or beer for 40 days is a great start, but  it is only a start.  Let us continue on from this Lenten journey as we have begun with more prayers, fasting, almsgiving and witnessing to the great gift that we have been given as Catholic men.

TKM Returns to Europe–Switzerland this time

On October 11th, The King’s Men dusted off our passport and traveled to Zurich for a week to give witness, participate and share in a genuine brotherhood that has crossed an ocean.for over a year now.  My host, Benjamin Aepli and lovely bride, Johanna, along with their 8 children, treated me like I was family.  I truly felt like a long lost uncle from America.  Despite our language barriers, Swiss German and English, me and the children communicated quite well.  Of course, Benjamin and his wife spoke very good English, but there was a genuine kindness and charity that was manifest in the Aepli home that transcended words and enabled me to comfortably adjust to the time zone change and easily assimilate to the new culture and surroundings.

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Wing Bowl Ends – Is TKM to Thank?

On October 30th, The King’s Men, Inc. was not sure whether there was a bit of mischief in the news that the Wing Bowl was coming to an end.  We have heard the rumors before that the Wing Bowl was ending only to have the Philadelphia sports talk radio personalities foil such rumors.  But this time, it was no trick that was being played on us, but a tremendous treat that was as sweet as any candy this writer has ever had on Halloween.

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TKM Statement on the Scandal, September 6, 2018

It has become evidently clear to us that our apostolate must join the many voices in the Catholic Church who are responding to the current crisis and recent clerical sex abuse scandal.   The concerns presented from those we serve through our weekly men’s groups, retreats and program offerings calls for a statement on the position of The King’s Men concerning these grave matters Continue reading

Church: It is Silence that Will Convict on Your Judgment!

Here we are dealing with another round of scandal in the Church and most of us are shocked and perplexed to STILL hear that there are more abuse reports coming from our Church here in the West. My wife just read the grand jury report for the Dioceses of Harrisburg, Scranton, Allentown, Erie and Greensburg and there is just an outcry among family members for justice, transparency and ousting these clearly homosexual and pedophile priests who are STILL alive and some STILL serving in active ministry.

Twenty-five years ago, I was silent about an abuse that happened to me and 4 boys got abused as a result.

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On the Road with TKM!

After 15 years of doing men’s ministry work, TKM is still rolling and thanks be to God that we are!  So many men have come to conversion and transformation from their time with the apostolate.  One TKM brother recently wrote to me the following:

People love donating to good causes they believe in and yours is helping save marriages, families and men’s souls – there’s not a better reason to give than that.”

I have to remind myself, at times, that our work does make a difference in the lives of men and the Church.  It is easy to forget when the daily grind of sustaining a ministry and supporting a family distracts from all the good that comes from the sacrifice to be a missionary family in full-time ministry.

Recently, I had the pleasure of seeing the power of God’s healing touch at the recent Into the Wild Retreat Weekend in Show Low, AZ.  Continue reading

Holy Week = Unholy Behavior

Here we are friends with another Holy Week upon us and the Gospel readings at Mass are filled with the events leading up to the Passion of Jesus Christ.  I am struck by the many men whom we hear at Mass, starting with the Passion Reading on Palm Sunday, who are behaving in the most awful of ways.

Here’s a summary review of the behavior we heard about on Sunday:

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Discerning God’s Will

Knowing the will of God is never an easy task, but one which me must continually take up as men.  Cooperating with God’s Holy Will, I submit, is something that men, in particular, can easily frustrate and get in the way of properly discerning.  I believe men often get in the way of God’s plans because we lack the patience for such.  The God fearing man seeks the will of God for his life because he knows he should, but when the answer doesn’t come quick enough, he will often take a course of action that provides the results that he is looking for.  This becomes problematic for him because God’s ways are not our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9).  In the end, the man has circumvented God’s will for instant gratification and further delayed the blessings of Almighty God upon him and his family.

What are the best ways to patiently wait on the will of God while pursuing what is necessary for our lives? 

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11th Anniversary of TKM

This month marks the 11th anniversary of The King’s Men apostolate’s full-time outreach to men and the Church. On August 28, 2006, my co-founder and I prayed before the statue of St. Augustine at the St. Rita Shrine in South Philadelphia and asked our patron saint, on his feast, to intercede before God and ask Him to bless our efforts. Indeed, St. Augustine did and God truly has!!!

There is so much to share and rejoice in as I reflect on the past 11 years.  The many conversions, re-versions, transformations, reunifications, miracles and cultural victories are too many to list.  However, in the spirit of giving glory to God for all He has done in and through this apostolate, I will boldly attempt to quantify some of this now:

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